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In which Jillian, age eight, wonders why she can't sleep in Dad's bed after a bad dream.

Just about every parent has been awakened in the middle of the night by a child frightened by a dream, and both have ended up sleeping in the parent's bed or the child's bed. Nurturing behaviors considered natural and comforting before the divorce, however, may now precipitate suspicion and criticism from other adults. This father, concerned about appearances, refuses to let his daughter sleep in his bed. She is unable to understand why what was previously acceptable is now not allowed by her father while still encouraged with her mother. In the commentary, we explore the ease with which normal nurturing activities can be misinterpreted and the problems this can cause for single parents raising children of opposite genders.