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GUIDELINES FOR THE CLASSROOM TEACHER

FORM AN ALLIANCE WITH BOTH PARENTS
--kids need to and want to stay in contact with both parents and both parents need to stay involved in their school life
--taking sides with one parent creates loyalty conflicts for the child
--being an advocate for the child is the most influential and also neutral position

BE PROACTIVE IN COMMUNICATING WITH PARENTS
--obtain phone number, fax, and e-mail contact information from both parents and tell parents to keep it updated
--invite both to parent conferences, separately or together
--make sure all notices reach both parents, e.g. one goes with the child, the other by mail, e-mail, or phone
--facilitate copying special pieces of work before they are sent home so they can be shared with both parents. These can be kept in a folder for conferences

BE PREPARED TO HELP A STUDENT MAINTAIN COMMUNICATION WITH THE NON-RESIDENTIAL PARENT
--this typically involves help with e-mail or with fax
--this is essential if phone communication is difficult to maintain or being obstructed

FACILITATE SUPPORT SYSTEMS
--Peers-watch for isolation or withdrawal from social situations
--Family members-grandparents are often a source of "neutral" support
--Coaches or other supportive adults in the school-can be an indispensable listener

BE SENSITIVE TO FAMILY SITUATIONS WHEN DEVISING CLASSROOM ACTIVITIES
--events such as "fathers breakfasts" can be painful
--autobiographical projects may be helpful if encouraged to write about "both sides" of their lives